Many of these people grew up in an unsafe environment, never learning healthy ways of dealing with the challenges of life. The victimhood of abused children is obvious to us. But as those children approach adulthood and start dealing with their pain through methods we find unhealthy or otherwise problematic, it becomes increasingly easy for us to see them as moral failures – to think of their ill-informed choices as plain weakness of character, separate from the circumstances that shaped the path of their lives.